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Frighten Horse

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Sigrid
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Hello

I have a gelding that I worked with for a few month now. He was hit a lot because he is so frighten of almost everything and of human. I worked with the Dually Halter on him and he is much better, I can touch him and catch him with no problem. The big problem is still that he is frighten of objects, I worked with him with the tarpaulin but I fail. He just don't want to see that it won't hurt him. I took shading net and with a few times of work he is okay with the shading net. He is also accept the plastic bag but after a day or two when I try the bag again he is still jumpy.
Should I just keep going and let him choose when he will accept the object of training? I am not sure what to do? Maybe it is still me, my body language. I am a newbie and learn myself with Monty's University videos.
Thanks
JoHewittVINTA
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Hi Siggi. Welcome to the Uni. We are all individuals & the horses are too. In order to meet each horses needs we must be adaptive in our training. There are guidelines but no hard & fast rules. Horse 1 may get it in 2 minutes but horse 2 may need 2 months. Humans must recognise & change their approach when the meaning is misunderstood. Study the lessons on the Uni. Gain your accreditations. Think through your training beforehand & identify where you may need to be more incremental & how to do that. Specifically, for standing still, perhaps you need to que by saying 'whoa', raising a finger, or your whole hand with fingers closed together as you step in front of your horse. Incremental changes- have someone stand with the horse whilst you make the move to face him. In other words, make it easy for him to succeed & more difficult for him to fail. Good luck. Cheers, Jo.
Sigrid
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Hi Jo
Thank you so much for all the advice, much appreciated. I will keep on working and study. 
bahila73
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Hello Siggi and welcome to the forum.  You have your work cut out for you if the horse that you have been working with has been mistreated.  Horses will just  about do anything for us if we can ask the question of them in way that they can understand while helping them deliver the right answer.  Anger and frustration seems to get In the way because we humans have not figured out a method of learned communication with our equine partners.

The good thing here is that horses are very forgiving and will stay in the present moment with their thought processes. as long as we don`t trip wire them into old traumatic memories.

If  this was my horse, and being aware of his past unpleasantness, the very first thing that I would try and do is build a relationship based on trust that goes both ways.  What exactly do I mean by trust that goes both ways?  Horses should enjoy a freedom to be themselves so that as each day passes they can get better at doing what they must do as the day presents itself in their world.  They need to be comfortable and stress free in their actions.  This will build confidence within them.     As humans, we need the exact same thing to happen to be able to claim our authentic selves.  THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT, BECAUSE IF WE ARE NOT AUTHENTIC THE HORSE WILL SEE RIGHT THROUGH THE FACADE THAT WE ARE PORTRAYING.  So Siggi, measure your steps closely, and be founded on the number one thing of importance to your horse--make him feel safe while in your presence.  If this can be accomplished, his cup of worry will not be over flowing with stress as you present a new leadership direction for him.

Remember, slow and easy [incremental steps] will level the playing field for you both.  My wish for you is to enjoy the journey, because your destination will most likely change course over time.

As Jo mentions above, I would arm myself with the learning the lessons that are offered on the uni.  Revisit each lesson over and over, so that you can become a master at calling upon the appropriate wisdom for each new situation as you and your horse find comfort with each other and the learning finds its way to understanding.

Please keep us posted

Bud
Sigrid
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Hello Bud
Thanks so much for all the advice and help. I am staying in Botswana and here is not much of horsemanship so I can't even ask someone here for advice. The ones that do work with horses work in the old traditional ways. 
I will keep on working. 

Thanks
Miriam (Holland&Germany)
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Hi Siggi,
Reading through this thread I'm really touched by your seeking for help and guidance!
You've come to the best place for violence-free training, horses and humans grow together in an atmosphere of trust. You mention your surroundings as not advanced in the way people treat their equines. You can become a role model. You can make the difference for that one horse, showing by example, that violence is never the answser!
Others might follow your example....
The advice you're seeking is always here for you, try us at the forum!
We're here to share what we've learned with eachother, from eachother,  so please feel free to ask!!!
Keep the good work going,
Miriam
Sigrid
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Thank you so much, Miriam, I will definitely be in contact.

Siggr

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