Hi everyone !
I was so excited to try join up with my horse. I watched Monty's video several times and even took notes ! I was ready.. so I thought !
Yesterday, I finally has the opportunity to try join-up ! I simply took my horse from his stable and, since we don't have a round pen where I do horse-riding, I went into our sand ring, it's something like 7' x 16' (20 x 40 m) (Sorry for the average, I'm not a native English speaker so I don't really deal with US measures! ).
My main concern was not to do big mistakes and also, in particular, I was afraid that, since the ring was "so" big, he wouldn't want to run !
So, I went into the ring, I did the orientation with the rubs on the head. Everything was fine. I orientated myself and the horse at 2:00 and released him, not watching him in the eye. He did nothing specific. Then I looked up into his eyes, and moved the lead.. not much reaction. So I squared my shoulders and opened my hands while waiving at him. He went off like a crazy horse !
At first, I wondered: "Oh, he's actually very active, that's good, I won't have to run after him !!". But the distance flight was already covered by my horse, I had made him turn around once, then twice, but he would not stop running like hell after that!! I really thought he was going to get himself injured because he was going so fast and making jumps everywhere !! He would look at me and accelerate even more ! I even was scared for myself at some point. And even when I lowered my hands, turning my hands towards me and across my chest, it did nothing. I started to talk to him in a low voice... no effect..
I must specify that it was at night, and he had only walked 30 minutes in the morning. We were inside and even if the weather was chilly, he had something on to keep him warm. So obviously he wanted to let off steam...
I was really worried about him, so after 2 minutes of craziness, I went in one of the corner of the ring and let him calm down. After 3 or 4 minutes, he went back to calm and rolled himself twice in the sand. After 2 more minutes, I turned my back to him so he would come closer, which he did and I caught him.
After that, I wanted to make him with the lead because I was afraid he would feel sore tomorrow after jumping and running like this ! I was confronted to another problem, which existed but which was emphasized yesterday: he wasn't respecting me (I have no problem when I'm ON the horse, but I've always had problems while by foot!). He would push me away, and he would constantly try to eat the lead, as a way to play with it. Problem is, by doing so, he would almost bite me several times because I'm just next to the lead !!! I'm glad I didn't let pressure cloud my mind and I remained calm but it's true at some point I wanted to give him a little slap on the cheek for pushing and "biting" me like he was doing.. I knew that I was feeling this urge because I didn't know how to react otherwise.. so I did nothing and continued walking like this .. in order not to do WORSE !
Today, I went to see my horse and ride, and everything was ok, he wasn't injured at all. (I showered his legs yesterday to be sure he would be ok) But I still feel a problem of respect..
Can you help me understanding how to react in both these situations please ??
I'm afraid to try joining-up again... :(
I don't want to go further before having achieved this first step !!
Thanks a lot ! :)
Pauline from France