Years ago I tried to achieve a Join Up, but my horse never came to me, although it showed me the signs.
Last week I went to one of Monty's incredible presentations. (Lucky me that he decided to visit us in Austria:)) He explained all of the necessary steps and we could ask him everything that we wanted to know. We were just 30 people, so there was plenty of time for each of us to actually talk to Monty.
Now I know what my problem was: I never paid attention to my hands!!!! My fingers were always spread! Furthermore I always WANTED to achieve a Join Up. Maybe my horse felt some pressure.
Yesterday I wanted to give it another shot, so my horse and I walked over to the Roundpen.
Usually, I would have thought: "Let's join up!" but this time I was like:" I want to listen to you aus well! Show me what you think of my movements! We've got all day, no need to hurry!"
I never once put any pressure in.
IT WORKED!!!!! My horse came to me and I nearly cried. We also had a pretty good Follow Up.
Thank you so much, Monty! You don't know what you did for me. You are awesome.